Let’s start with the good news. Fear is learned; you are not born with it, which means you can unlearn it.
Fear is sabotaging our success. People are mostly scared of failure, rejection or loss in any area of life, such as job, finance, and love. We avoid risks altogether and will miss out on the most incredible experiences and success we could face.
The most frequent reactions to fear are being paralyzed and not to do anything. It is the typical “I can’t do” attitude, the fear of failure and loss. This type of fear can be severe. You might feel your heart starts pounding; your mouth and throat go dry, and your breath might be affected. This type of fear shuts down your brain and causes to revert to the ‘fight-or-flight’ reaction. To live with fear is horrible as it affects our happiness and holds us back in our entire life if we don’t start doing something about it.
Below are some tips on what to do to fight the fear in yourself:
- Be aware of what are you scared of and why
The first step to healing your fear is to be aware of what scares you. Not everybody knows that. The next question is why are you feeling fear? Write it down.
Once you worked out what exactly it is, confront your fear. It might be a particular person or situation. Deal with it and don’t allow this to make you unhappy.
2. Go through your list of reasons, try to analyze it and move on in life staying positive
Are your reasons due to your belief or because of one or more bad experiences you have made? If that is the case, try to switch around your mindset. Is your idea real or just imaginary? If your fear relates to bad experiences you have made, attempt to get rid of it in your mindset. Remember the positive experiences and forget the negative ones. I know it is hard and sometimes not possible. Even though remember, everything happened for a reason. Maybe God was just telling you very loudly to change your life as you were not happy at that particular moment and the change was needed, but you were too comfortable in your situation? Whatever the reason was, remember only the positive things and believe that something better is waiting for you. Sometimes we need that push to realise that something better is out there for us. Don’t assume that your past issues will repeat all your life. It will when your mindset stays negative, and you keep yourself remembering the bad things.
Facing your fear and moving towards it, will ensure your fear is diminishing.
In contrast, when you move away from your fear it will become larger. It will then dominate your thinking and feeling, preoccupies you during the day, and often keeps you awake at night.
3. Imagine your bright future
Your mindset and how disciplined you try to fix it will be the determinator of your success. Visualise your bright future with whatever you desire. Imagine as if no fear exists. You will see how your world around you will change suddenly.
Act as if, walk and talk, and carry yourself exactly as you would if you haven’t had any fears. Stand up with confidence, smile, move with courage. Feel a certain way and you automatically will act the same way.
Do the things you fear until that fear eventually disappears. At the same time, your self-esteem will go up, your self-respect increases and you will be proud of yourself. You never know, but you might end up in a situation where you are not afraid of anything.
“Don’t be afraid of your fears. They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it.” – C. JoyBell C.