Half of our lives we spend dreaming about what we want to achieve, the other half we spend worrying if we will ever get there, I live like I already have it.
What a great reminder to stop worrying and to trust the universe. Don’t just dream about your goals but start to action on it. Live your life like you already have achieved your goals. You will see how opportunities will come in, if this is the right path for you. Trust the flow and embrace the journey. Namaste.
Welcome to my weekly inspirational quotes, which help us to stay on track and remember there is something bigger than us.
This week’s inspirational quote is:
The universe reveals its secret to those who dare to follow their hearts.
Remember to follow and trust your heart. Our mind is not always right and mostly trapped by our ego. Sometimes we listen to other people but don’t trust ourselves. Bear in mind, that other people tell us what they think is right based on their values and experiences. That’s fine but it does not mean it is the right solution for you.
So, next time you need to make a decision, try to listen to your body and whatever feels right for you. Some people need to feel it in their heart or in their gut. Trust yourself, follow your heart and you will see that the universe is responding to you.
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Life is a mirror. Everything in your mind will be reflected back at you. So watch out what is going on in your mind and what you are thinking.
Once you understand this concept, this is a life changer. If you are being negative, you send out negative energy vibrations and guess what? You will receive negative results. Once you learn how to shift your thinking and being positive, your energy level will increase and you will harvest your fruits. However, it is not as easy as it sounds like.
Unfortunately just having a desire does not necessarily give you what you want. That’s why lots of people who tried the law of attraction are failing and blaming this not to be true. The problem is your energy in your body. Everything is made of energy. I believe everybody has some sort of issues and baggage to deal with and if you believe in past lives, some of the problems might even stam from there. Subconsciously we might hang on to a certain belief system which can be triggered by some negative experiences from this or past lives if you believe so. You can think as positively as you want, you won’t get it because subconsciously you are blocking yourself. The best way to deal with this is to acknowledge your problems and to let go. For some people yoga or meditation is the way to get aware of all the little issues and false belief systems we have. Once you realise, let it go and write down your true new believe. You can feel a shift in your energy and will notice how suddenly the law of attraction is working.
“Life is a mirror: if you frown at it, it frowns back; if you smile, it returns the greeting.” ― William Makepeace Thackeray –
I love the photos below which reflect the beauty of the world we live in and everybody can see. The only thing we need to do is to open our mind and heart. The second photo reflects the mirror of our life.
First I was disappointed not being able to go down to the bay to take photos but I was saying to myself to be creative instead. In the end I loved the result, different and not a typical sunset photo.
I was playing around with that photo in the Macphun softwares. The result of my creativity is the following photo:
“Life is a mirror: if you frown at it, it frowns back; if you smile, it returns the greeting.” ― William Makepeace Thackeray –
The trees mirroring to each side of the picture. I found that to be an interesting creative result which I want to share with you.
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Let’s start with the good news. Fear is learned; you are not born with it, which means you can unlearn it.
Fear is sabotaging our success. People are mostly scared of failure, rejection or loss in any area of life, such as job, finance, and love. We avoid risks altogether and will miss out on the most incredible experiences and success we could face.
The most frequent reactions to fear are being paralyzed and not to do anything. It is the typical “I can’t do” attitude, the fear of failure and loss. This type of fear can be severe. You might feel your heart starts pounding; your mouth and throat go dry, and your breath might be affected. This type of fear shuts down your brain and causes to revert to the ‘fight-or-flight’ reaction. To live with fear is horrible as it affects our happiness and holds us back in our entire life if we don’t start doing something about it.
Below are some tips on what to do to fight the fear in yourself:
Be aware of what are you scared of and why
The first step to healing your fear is to be aware of what scares you. Not everybody knows that. The next question is why are you feeling fear? Write it down.
Once you worked out what exactly it is, confront your fear. It might be a particular person or situation. Deal with it and don’t allow this to make you unhappy.
2. Go through your list of reasons, try to analyze it and move on in life staying positive
Are your reasons due to your belief or because of one or more bad experiences you have made? If that is the case, try to switch around your mindset. Is your idea real or just imaginary? If your fear relates to bad experiences you have made, attempt to get rid of it in your mindset. Remember the positive experiences and forget the negative ones. I know it is hard and sometimes not possible. Even though remember, everything happened for a reason. Maybe God was just telling you very loudly to change your life as you were not happy at that particular moment and the change was needed, but you were too comfortable in your situation? Whatever the reason was, remember only the positive things and believe that something better is waiting for you. Sometimes we need that push to realise that something better is out there for us. Don’t assume that your past issues will repeat all your life. It will when your mindset stays negative, and you keep yourself remembering the bad things.
Facing your fear and moving towards it, will ensure your fear is diminishing.
In contrast, when you move away from your fear it will become larger. It will then dominate your thinking and feeling, preoccupies you during the day, and often keeps you awake at night.
3. Imagine your bright future
Your mindset and how disciplined you try to fix it will be the determinator of your success. Visualise your bright future with whatever you desire. Imagine as if no fear exists. You will see how your world around you will change suddenly.
Act as if, walk and talk, and carry yourself exactly as you would if you haven’t had any fears. Stand up with confidence, smile, move with courage. Feel a certain way and you automatically will act the same way.
Do the things you fear until that fear eventually disappears. At the same time, your self-esteem will go up, your self-respect increases and you will be proud of yourself. You never know, but you might end up in a situation where you are not afraid of anything.
“Don’t be afraid of your fears. They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it.” – C. JoyBell C.
Lots of us have been hurt in some way. It might have been your parents, your colleagues or boss might have sabotaged you or your partner betrayed you. The wounds can stay with you forever, you may feel bitter and full of anger, you might start to believe that everybody will do this to you. You start losing trust in others, which is eventually damaging you. A friend of mine was saying once: “Don’t let anyone rent space in your head for free.” I know it is easier said than done, but try to imagine all the bad things happened to you, put all of it into a big balloon. Can you see the problems floating around in there? Now get ready, burn it and let it go into the sky. See how it destroys itself and all your negative issues are gone? I know, it is not as simple as that, but you get the point.e
Forgiveness is the hardest thing to do, but once you do, you will open up for the better. Let go of the grudges and bitterness, don’t hold on to anger and wishing the worst to the person who has hurt you. This will only bring more negativity. Instead, forgive, even though it is hard. You will realise how much your heart will start to open. New and great things will be happening to you. Embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy.
How do you forgive and what does it mean?
It is your decision to let go of resentment and anger. Whatever it was that hurt you might always remain part of your life, but forgiveness can help you to focus on new and more positive things. You might even feel empathy, and you understand the situation better, or you feel compassion for the one who hurt you.
Forgiveness does not mean you deny the other person’s responsibility, and it does not justify what happened. Forgive that person without excusing the act. It will benefit in moving your life forward.
What other advantages can you get from forgiving others? It will bring you:
Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
Less anxiety, stress and hostility
Lower blood pressure
Fewer symptoms of depression
Stronger immune system
Improved heart health and
When forgiving that person, stop seeing yourself as a victim and release the control of offending the person and situation.
“Watch out for each other. Love everyone and forgive everyone, including yourself. Forgive your anger. Forgive your guilt. Your shame. Your sadness. Embrace and open up your love, your joy, your truth, and most especially your heart.” – Jim Henson
Letting go of guilt, anger, love, loss or betrayal is one of the hardest parts because we are mostly scared of change. We fight to hold on but also fight to let go. Once you have been hurt your soul is breaking, your perspective on life will change.
Even though it is hard, here are some reasons why you should let go:
Let go of the things which do not serve you any longer, do not grow you or make you unhappy, only then you will live a happy and meaningful life you deserve.
Some rejections in your life are only re-direction to something better.
Letting go frees you from unnecessary stress and gives you a peaceful state of mind.
It makes you a stronger person. Letting go means you leave your comfort zone and decide for taking on new opportunities.
Letting go is not to say you don’t care about someone anymore, you just take ownership over your life.
You don’t lose the things you let go. Instead, you lose the things you cling on to. Have you ever struggled to find a new job or love and you realised that you found it the minute you gave up? That is the paradox of letting go.
You cannot move forward if you keep looking backwards. Unless you let go, forgive yourself or someone else or that the situation is over, you are not able to move forward.
Forgiving is letting go of the past which gives you inner peace.
Once you let go of the past, you are ready to have something better.
“In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” Deepak Chopra
Letting go gives you freedom and thus happiness.
It means you know there is a future for you.
The pain of letting go is less than missing your destiny.
Let go of the life you have been planning, you open yourself to the life that God has in store for you.
Do not force things which are not working anymore. If things are meant to happen, it will, if not, open up to new opportunities for something better.
“Letting go means to come to the realisation that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.” ― Steve Maraboli
This is a quote I am passionate about. You probably experienced this type of situation in your life where you achieved something major for yourself, or you are fulfilling your dream and people react with jealousy.
Don’t be jealous. Jealousy is being negative. You don’t want others to be successful? Why not, be happy for them, show your tears of joy. If you want to achieve or do the same, then do it and stop being negative about it.
Being happy for others is being genuine and positive, which attracts more of the good things in your life. It feels good if you are happy for somebody else. You can make similar choices in your life and have the same things if you want to. It is up to you. There is absolutely no need for being jealous.
“The worst part of success is trying to find someone who is happy for you.” ― Bette Midler
I love this quote from J.R.R. Tolkien. Make the most of every opportunity because life can be short. You never know what will happen tomorrow. So enjoy and be grateful for every day.
We cannot choose to live in other times or jump into the future immediately if we don’t like a current situation. However, you do have a choice about what to do in the here and now. It is your decision of how you want to live and what you want to do. Be grateful for the gift of life.
What is it you always wanted to do? Why are you still dreaming about it? Write down what you want and the reasons why you haven’t pursued it yet. Now read it again and be honest with yourself. Are your reasons excuses? If your answer is yes, then forget about the excuses and just do it. Do not waste any time.
Are you still not sure? Is fear holding you back? Now, that can be a serious issue. I recently wrote an article about it: “How to overcome your fears”: click here to read more about it. Are you scared of failure? You most likely will not fail if your mindset is positive and if you do experience unpleasant things, take it as a lesson learned. You have nothing to lose.
Still not sure? Ask yourself if you would horribly miss out if there wouldn’t be a tomorrow? If the answer is yes, go for it and don’t hold back.
It is your life; you make the decisions of what to do in the time given to you.
For me, it was to fulfil my dream travelling to South America. It was the best decision I have ever made. The photo below is me after the hike to the Fitz Roy mountain glacier lake; it was an 8 hours hike return, exhausting but rewarding.
“All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” ―J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
We are in control of our destiny; life is made up of our choices, and we create what we desire. However, sometimes we first need to find out what our purpose in life is or what we want to make the right decisions.
You will ask now; that sounds great but how do you create yourself?
Discover yourself first
Life can get busy, and we get caught up in unimportant things we do because we are used to it, or we are too busy with our jobs and work a crazy amount of hours. In those situations, it ‘s hard to find out what you want. We need the time out to reflect on ourselves and goals in life. Take your time either in the morning before you get out of bed or in the evening and write down what you always wanted to do. Ideas might not come to you straight away but writing about it every day might help you to find it. Make it a habit of writing down whatever comes to your mind. If that still does not help, do something new, e.g. meet new people and talk to them, learn from what they say and experienced. Get out of your comfort zone and do it anyways. You will be surprised what you might find out about yourself and what you want to achieve. Once your mind is getting clear about what you want, write your specific goals down.
Pursue your goal
Now it is time to focus on your goal and to work out an action plan. You might want to set smaller goals. Otherwise, it can get frustrating, and you ought to give up when the goal seems to be too far away. It helps you to keep motivated and determined.
Cancel everything that is not helping you in achieving your goals to have more time to focus on what really matters. Always open your mind and observe, you might find the solution right in front of you.
Be the person you want to be
Important is to be the person you wish to be, show your confidence. You will notice that people will recognise you even more. Ensure you are surrounded by positive people who support and can teach you. Stay away from doubters and complainers. Work hard, don’t give up and trust you will achieve your goal. It is in your hands. Nobody says that it will be easy, but it is worth going for it.
Don’t expect everything to happen straight away. Depending on your goal this might take a long time. Don’t give up.
Go and find what you desire and create your little world.
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.’ – George Bernard Shaw
Most people judge others based on their values and attitudes. Judging others means being negative; you put another person into your narrow mindset and that is mostly only your view but not the reality.
Be positive and open-minded instead. Learn how to become more aware of your thoughts and stop judging because you never know what the other person has been through their life. Most people act in a certain way because of their personal struggle and it has nothing to do with you.
I summarised ten tips on how to stop judging people.
It is not about you. When others treat us in a bad way, we instinctively feel threatened and get defensive. Depending on our personality we might fire back. The key is to pause for a second and trying to see the situation from the other person’s perspective. If you can’t work it out, then ask. You might be surprised and realise that it has nothing to do with you.
Be mindful. Step back, breathe and think before you act in a nasty way or send a rude email. You cannot get your words back. Try to understand the other person and rephrase being more positive or, at least, neutral. You do not know the reason for people’s behaviour.
Do not personalise. In case somebody disagrees with you and you feel this person is making your life to hell, remember that it is probably not about you. Ask and discuss the situation to find out more about it. Maybe that person faces some pain in life. Will Smith once said: “because in all honesty, everyone is struggling. Some people are better at hiding it than others.”
Look for the positive. Remember, there is always something positive to each situation and person.
“Just like me.” Bear in mind that everybody is essentially like you, i.e. loves their family, wants to be happy and does not wish to suffer. Everybody makes mistakes, you too.
Be open-minded. Be open-minded and accept other people’s behaviour. Others might not do something the way you do but have the same goal. Everybody is different. Life would be boring if everyone would do the same things in the same way.
Look at yourself first. Be aware that you might act in the same way before you judge others.
Educate yourself. When some people are annoying to you, question yourself if that person might have a disability.
Give the person the benefit of the doubt. Surely everyone gets up in the morning and thinks they will have a beautiful day but things can happen to us where our mood suddenly changes and we cannot control how we act or react to others. Remember that person might have had a bad moment. See the good in everybody.
Feel good about yourself. Once you feel good about yourself, judging and talking in a negative way about others wouldn’t even cross your mind. We might be hard to others and make fun about their appearance or weight because we have similar issues and just want to feel better. Believe me, you won’t feel better. Just look at yourself and feel good. Making fun of others is being negative and brings more negative things into your life.
Don’t waste your time being negative and judge others, make room to love yourself and others.
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” ― Mother Teresa