Fear is like walking in the dark searching for the light but as soon as you see the light you walk away because you are scared. It is out of your comfort zone. Friends cannot do much; they mean it in a good way when they tell you there is nothing you need to be scared of. We all know, that doesn’t help. We are not listening to that kind of advice.
Fear is real and in order to deal with it you firstly need to acknowledge it. Fear is psychological. Worry, tension, embarrassment, panic are results from mismanaging negative imaginations. But knowing that you deal with fears, doesn’t mean you can heal it immediately. You need to go inside your soul and try to understand where it comes from. People say it is only in your mind but in fact it is real. Fear is your success enemy no.1. Fear is stopping us from recognising and taking on opportunities. You might actually feel you found what you were looking for but fear is stopping you to take it, you go back to your old habits and wonder why you are still unhappy. Unfortunately fear can make people sick, depressed and shortens your life.
Everybody wants to be successful and live a fulfilled life but not everyone seems to do it. Why is it so hard? What is it you need to live a fulfilled life?
It starts with your dreams and your optimistic attitude. What exactly is it you want? This might be in regards to your relationships, job or whatever it is for you. If you are not sure what you wish for, then you won’t get anywhere. Take some time out and think about your goals; write them down. Don’t stop dreaming. Don’t doubt yourself and stop with your dangerous manipulating self talk.
Believe in your goals. Go for it and believe that you can get what you want. Be positive and chase your dreams.
You probably noticed by now, I am a Bob Marley fan. I love reading his quotes about love. Chose to love her or him. It is in your hands. You are the director of your own life. What do you have to lose? Probably only time.
“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect—you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break—her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.” ― Bob Marley
I came across this beautiful quote from Bob Marley which I couldn’t resist but to share with you. Enjoy reading it. May all of you find that special someone in your life. Trust your gut when you meet that special person, your heart will tell you. Don’t be scared if you feel that way and run away because you don’t believe it can be true. Go for it, open your heart and feel the love of your life. Hold on to it. Life is too short to throw those kind of opportunities away. Live your life and love like you will never get hurt.
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” ― Bob Marley
Be true to yourself and do not pretend to be someone else or do and say things to please others. Stick to your core values and beliefs.
You don’t need to please everybody. If you live your values and be the person who you truly are, you will attract the right people into your life. They will love you for being just you. Let your personality shine.
The people who don’t agree with your values and won’t follow you don’t matter anyways.
Live your life with pure joy every day. Do whatever you feel like without being worried that somebody might be watching and judging you.
Dance like nobody is watching. People are most likely busy with themselves. I have seen people on the dance floor who had so much fun and go crazy. They might not have been the best dancers but that doesn’t matter. They were just enjoying themselves which is so much more attractive to me than somebody who is just showing off thousands of moves but doesn’t have fun or doesn’t feel the music. Whatever feels right to you, go for it. People who judge are just being negative and dissatisfied with their own life.
Always see the beauty around you and appreciate life. Be happy.
Life is beautiful, you just need to look for it. Even when we are in distress sometimes and things are not as we would love them to be, look for the positive in each situation. Think of the positive things in your life and be happy.
I wish you all a happy and healthy new year 2016. May 2016 be the year you follow your dreams and forget about your worries and fears. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes because that just means you tried new things, you learned something new, you lived your life and pushed yourself out of your comfort zone. Change yourself and your life. Do things you have never done before; this might be in art, love, family, life or work.
Don’t stop, don’t freeze and don’t worry that whatever you do is not good enough or not perfect. You will never find out if you don’t try.
Whatever it is you are scared of doing, Do it anyways. Live your life to its fullest potential; only then you will see the rainbow in your life.