Lots of us have been hurt in some way. It might have been your parents, your colleagues or boss might have sabotaged you or your partner betrayed you. The wounds can stay with you forever, you may feel bitter and full of anger, you might start to believe that everybody will do this to you. You start losing trust in others, which is eventually damaging you. A friend of mine was saying once: “Don’t let anyone rent space in your head for free.” I know it is easier said than done, but try to imagine all the bad things happened to you, put all of it into a big balloon. Can you see the problems floating around in there? Now get ready, burn it and let it go into the sky. See how it destroys itself and all your negative issues are gone? I know, it is not as simple as that, but you get the point.e
Forgiveness is the hardest thing to do, but once you do, you will open up for the better. Let go of the grudges and bitterness, don’t hold on to anger and wishing the worst to the person who has hurt you. This will only bring more negativity. Instead, forgive, even though it is hard. You will realise how much your heart will start to open. New and great things will be happening to you. Embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy.
How do you forgive and what does it mean?
It is your decision to let go of resentment and anger. Whatever it was that hurt you might always remain part of your life, but forgiveness can help you to focus on new and more positive things. You might even feel empathy, and you understand the situation better, or you feel compassion for the one who hurt you.
Forgiveness does not mean you deny the other person’s responsibility, and it does not justify what happened. Forgive that person without excusing the act. It will benefit in moving your life forward.
What other advantages can you get from forgiving others? It will bring you:
- Healthier relationships
- Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
- Less anxiety, stress and hostility
- Lower blood pressure
- Fewer symptoms of depression
- Stronger immune system
- Improved heart health and
- Higher self-esteem.
When forgiving that person, stop seeing yourself as a victim and release the control of offending the person and situation.
“Watch out for each other. Love everyone and forgive everyone, including yourself. Forgive your anger. Forgive your guilt. Your shame. Your sadness. Embrace and open up your love, your joy, your truth, and most especially your heart.” – Jim Henson