Day #15 from stress to success: Reduce the four addictors

Welcome to day #14 of the 31-day challenge: from stress to success. Today’s secret to success is:

Reduce the four addictors

Yesterday I was writing about “Do what you love doing and love what you do” and explained how this is built on what you value most. If you missed that post, I really encourage you to read it before you go into this topic. If we are doing what we love and are totally aligned with what we value most, the less likely you are involved in having any addictions. When your soul is fulfilled with what you do, the less likely you grave any of these substances.

We are more prone to addictions when we don’t do what we love doing and are not aligned with our highest values. When we live our life according to other people’s values, we feel dissatisfied and look for immediate gratification. The chances of having one of the four addictors are very likely.

So what are the four addictors?

  1. coffee
  2. cigarettes
  3. alcohol
  4. sugar

How do I reduce my addictions?

So the first part of the solution is to relook at what you are doing and evaluate if that is in line with your highest values. If not, either link what you do with your values or if that is not working out, change your situation or if financially not possible straight away, make a plan and start preparing towards your goal in your spare time. You might say, I don’t have time, but if I tell you that each one of us has 24 hours a day and it is up to you to choose how to fill the 24 hours, you most likely will find time for what is really important to you.

To further help you not needing these addictors any longer, start with reducing your intake. I had one client who had 10 cups of coffee a day to numb himself out from the stress he experienced at work. Of course, he couldn’t stop having coffee altogether, but he started to reduce the coffee intake slowly, week by week. He is now down to 2 cups a day but having said this, he also changed his job he was doing. He is still in the same company but realised that what he was doing, was what he hated and made him feel depressed and stressed out. So both actions helped him to overcome the stress and burnout.

Very important is to not feel bad about your addictions to any of these sources to numb yourself out. Instead say thank you to them as they teach you that something is not in line with your values, so you are able to address the real cause.

In fact, your body does not need any of these, in moderation everything is ok. Ask yourself why you are choosing these addictors. What symptoms are you trying to cover? For instance, if you feel sluggish in the mornings or are bored at work, you grab a cup of coffee. It provides you with a temporary buzz, but if its’ used in excess, it can disturb the energy-producing process of the liver and pancreas.

Smoking cigarettes, particular if you smoke a lot, can rob your lungs of oxygen and shrink your blood vessels so that your cells can’t survive. Again, moderation is key.

Alcohol in moderation is ok, but certainly in excess and on a daily basis is telling you something. Are you drinking it to relax? What else could you do or drink to help you relax? Start substituting until you realise you don’t need the alcohol. Alcohol does not help you in staying alert to your own intuition. It may provide you with a temporary high, but we all know how you feel afterwards or the next day. You might enjoy the taste, but at that moment, think about how it makes you feel the next day or makes you wake up numerous times during the night. Do you really want to feel like this? So control it, before it controls you.

In the same way, your brain needs oxygen to function correctly. It also requires sugar but only in moderate amounts. High concentration burden your pancreas, liver and adrenals. So if you are already suffering from chronic stress and adrenal fatigue, the last thing you want to have is sugar. It causes even more stress to your adrenals. Sugar does not only affect your body but also your emotions. Manic-depressive swings may result from sugar addiction. So just like the other addictors, limit your sugar intake. Substitute sugar with maple-, coconut syrup or honey.

Life experiences provide us already with enough stress. We don’t need these addictors to add to our stress level.

Action steps:

1. Most of the addictors are social ones and are often associated with peer pressure. To remain moderate, say “Thanks, but no thanks,” to excesses.

2. When you are out, select places where these addictors aren’t used excessively. For example, if you go to a bar, you’d probably be persuaded to have a cigarette and a drink. Likewise, you’d probably be tempted to order a coffee and some sugary foods if you go to a cafe or pastry bar. Prioritise where you hang out. Luckily nowadays there are so many healthy cafes and restaurants available, try one of these. Substitute your coffee with a matcha latte.

3. If you keep stock of the four addictors in your home, you’ll probably be more tempted to have it because it is accessible. Stop buying any of these or buy it in moderation only.

4. Try this experiment for a week: moderate the four addictors or other ones you use – for instance being online on social media is another big addictor! How much time do you spend on social media or playing games on your phone? Notice the difference it makes to reduce the intake of any of these addictors. Be creative instead.

After a few days of adjusting your lifestyle, you might experience physical reactions from withdrawal. You might be suffering from headaches. Note, that this will pass when you stick to not having these addictors. You will notice that you will gain more energy, clearer focus, and more confidence which is helping you with your success. Once you see the positive impact on stopping to have these addictive behaviours in your life, you don’t want to return to the past.

Affirmation:

I am a master of myself, and my middle name is moderation.

 

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Stay tuned for day 16 action steps.

Alex

Day #14 from stress to success: Love what you do and do what you love

Welcome to day #14 of the 31-day challenge: from stress to success. Today’s secret to success is:

Love what you do and do what you love

To be successful and feeling fulfilled in our life can be easy when we allow ourselves to trust our inner wisdom, intuition and inspiration. Once we are clear what we value most, we don’t even think about not working towards our goals. We start to run on autopilot and overcome all challenges in the way. We see these problems as learning lessons and stepping stones.

The problem with too many people is that they are not trusting their inner wisdom, don’t allow to listen to their intuition and instead trying to discuss their life path with other people, ask them for the advice of what they should do. This happens when we don’t trust ourselves, especially during times when we feel uncertain and filled with self-doubt, fear or guilt. Taking on other people’s advice is doing only one thing – it messes up in our head. Remember, every single person on this planet has their own set of values; nobody, not even your partner, is identical. We are unique human beings with our own path. Only you know the answer. So if you ask other people for the advice of what you should be doing, they will answer based on their values. Of course, they mean it in a right way because they want the best for you but what if your path is entirely different to other people?

Having said this, mentors will be very helpful as long as they only ask you questions to help you find the answer in yourself. Unfortunately, most people or mentors in corporations don’t do this and just tell you what they would be doing. So, choose your mentors wisely or book a coach who can help you to trust your inner guidance and transforms your old limiting beliefs for good.

Don’t get messed up in your head and learn how to trust yourself. The stress starts when you do things other people tell you to do but it is not in line with your values. Then you basically run against your own energy. This is exhausting. That’s when we start giving up as soon as a minor challenge comes up because we keep saying to ourselves that it is too hard. That’s when we start comparing ourselves to others and punish ourselves when we don’t hit the standard.

If that’s you experiencing it right now, stop right here and ask yourself: Is what I am doing in line with my highest intrinsic values or do I live a life based on other people’s values? As soon as you realise you use the words: should, have to or must….you can be sure, you follow someone else’s values and not your own. You are walking on a different path but not yours.

Now, the good news is, that it is not too late. Being aware of the situation is already the first step towards change. Once you realised that you are living your life based on shoulds, have to or need to, ask yourself what it is you value most? What is something you love doing, which makes you jump out of bed in the morning and nobody needs to remind you to do it? What makes your heart sing? Ask yourself if it is a “hell yes” or a “no”. Yes, there is nothing in between. So if it is not a ‘hell yes’, change it or link it to your values and goals. It might be a stepping stone for you right now so you can achieve your goal in the future.

Doing what you love doing is making you experience fulfilment in life. It is enhancing your self-worth. Not following your path is hindering your self-esteem and leads to stress and exhaustion.

Even when you realise that you are in a career or relationship which does not fulfil you and you feel trapped or in a hopeless situation. Don’t! Remember everything you do is happening for a reason, you might have had to learn specific experiences and lessons to move towards your actual goal. Or you just had to learn a lesson of trusting your intuition rather than other people’s advice.

Whatever you are presently doing, perceive it as a stepping stone to ever-greater things ahead. If for some reason you are not ready to move towards your next goal, link what you are currently doing to your goal and embrace and learn everything you can. In the meantime, you can start and prepare building your dream.

Having a purpose for what you do is essential. It helps you to focus on the things which matter and to get rid of the things which don’t.

If you are still unsure of what it is you love doing, I am going to offer a free workbook which is helping you to find out what your intrinsic values are. In order to receive this, please join my closed facebook group . I am going to make this available only in that group by the end of this challenge.

Action steps:

1. If you feel that you aren’t doing what you love, write down at least 20 benefits of whatever you are currently doing. As you’re writing this list, keep in mind that whatever you’re engaged in is merely a stepping – stone. It’s preparing you for what you would love to do tomorrow. This will help you put your heart more fully into your day.

2. If you do feel that you’re already doing what you love, write down a long list of its benefits. Keep writing until you feel your heart opens up even more to your daily life.

Affirmation:

I do what I love, and I love what I do.

If you enjoy this challenge and want more juicy information, please join my closed facebook group “Light up your soul” for more valuable free content and future challenges: join here. In that group I am going to offer a workbook which is helping you to find out what your intrinsic values are. Join my group now and stay tuned for this download.

If you feel stuck with chronic fatigue because of consistent high stress levels or you feel just drained and unmotivated to go to work every morning, don’t wait and book in your free discovery call with me now. Click here.

Stay tuned for day 15 action steps.

Alex

Day #13 from stress to success: Eat light, moderate meals

eat light

Welcome to day #13 of the 31-day challenge: from stress to success. Today’s secret to success is:

Eat light, moderate meals

“You are what you eat.” In addition to that, it is also important “when and how much” you eat.

How many of us have overeaten late at night and have felt stuffed and tired the next day? Late night eating does not energise us or make us feel good. It is actually adding to our stress level. Having no eating rhythm can also throw our bodies off. When eating you want to make sure you eat moderately, consistently and at certain times. Allow yourself to have at least 12 hours fasting time between your last meal and breakfast.

I am German and used to have a warm lunch and only something light for dinner. When I moved to Australia, I noticed it was the other way round. I still stick to my way as I was used to doing it this way. However, I learned that eating light for dinner is actually healthier and in line with our body’s energy. When eating a meal, it is wise to have at least 3 hours to digest your food before you go to bed. It helps you to sleep better too.

What you eat can make a huge difference. Listen to your inner voice. How do you feel after eating certain foods? Does the food you are eating make you feel energised or sluggish? Everybody is different. In the end make sure you have a balanced diet, which means lots of vegetables, some fruits, only a bit of grain and your preferred protein. Your body knows exactly what is right for you.

Don’t get too caught up in all the diets out there. Diets don’t work as they are based on deprivation, what you cannot have. Instead, you want to focus on what you get to eat. Fill your body with food which energises you and substitute the food which makes you feel tired or even bloated. There are so many healthy substitutes available. Choose also food which is helping your body to alkalise. I am going to write an article about alkalising food soon, stay tuned for more information. Balance is essential, choose to have your treat or cheat meal once a week and enjoy it.

Eating only when you are hungry, eating less rather than more, and eating light at night, your whole body will feel more energised and in tune with success in life.

Action Step:

1. When you eat in the evening, prepare moderate-sized meals, preferably at least three hours before going to bed. If you feel that you have overeaten, don’t go to sleep immediately; instead, go for a walk or do some gentle exercises to stimulate your metabolism. The lighter you eat, the sooner you can relax on the couch or go to bed.

2. If you do find yourself overeating, chew your food more times and eat more slowly. If you are dining out, just don’t order so much. If you prepare your food at home, only cook the amount you want to eat.

Affirmation:

I eat wisely. Every bite I take builds my dreams of success.

eat light

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Stay tuned for day 14 action steps.

Alex

 

Day #5 From Stress to Success: Visualise your success

visualisation

Welcome to tip #5 of the 31 days from stress to success challenge:

Visualise your success.

I am sure you are all aware of the law of attraction. It always starts with visualising your success. If we are unclear of our vision, it creates stress, whereas focusing on our vision leads to success. Seeing the details in our mind is very important.

You might come across the situation where you cannot see clearly, or our vision lacks focus. I suggest to write down more details in your action steps.

Do you suffer from fatigue, depression and stress? This is mostly due to a lack of clarity. If you can’t see your success, or what you need to do to create it, how can we expect to live it?

There is a proven technique called mental rehearsal which athletes are using. They visualise their success before any upcoming performance. Our brains and bodies tend to work most efficiently when they have a planned detailed picture to work on.  Your body and life’s direction follows your inner vision. People who have the most precise image tend to lead those whose vision is cloudy. They are the ones who are more successful and experience less stress. Others start to look up to them for guidance. If you want to lead a successful, meaningful life, visualise clearly.

Action steps for today:

  1. Now you’ve written down your seven top action steps. Take at least 5-10 minutes, sit in a comfortable position where you cannot be disturbed and take three deep breaths and close your eyes. Visualise stress-free completion of each step.
  2. While you keep breathing, focus on the details. Be specific. The more detailed you are, the easier it will be to follow through your action steps.
  3. Now, keep breathing and visualising your outcome as well as the journey. See how you achieve each of these 7 steps successfully until you feel this deep satisfaction. Enjoy this feeling. The mind creates a virtual reality that will manifest into reality.

Affirmation:

I can see myself succeeding; it is done. Wow, what a feeling!

visualisation
Visualise your success.

 

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Stay tuned for day 6 action steps.

Alex

From Stress to Success – Day #2 Clear away the obstacles

Hi everyone:) How was day #1 for you? You set your goals and are ready to go? Oh, you missed the first day? No problem, you can still jump in.  Oh, hang on, yes you have set a goal but obstacles are in the way? Great. Now, let’s work on that: Clear away your goal’s obstacles, you can watch the video instead here . Hmm, that sounds juicy.

Obstacle number 1 – Overwhelm and how to overcome it:

We all might remember a time, where you set a goal which sounded fantastic and got you pumped but then you looked at it going: holy moly, how am I going to achieve this? Where do I start? Overwhelm gets in the way. I have this all the time. My goals are big, and if I don’t break it down, nothing is going to happen as I find all sorts of excuses why something else is suddenly more important. A big goal is most likely to cause you even more stress.

So, what do I do then?

Easy, break your big goal into little chunks and set a timeframe next to it, so you know when you want to have the small goals accomplished by. It is so easy but yet does wonders. You will feel great once you can tick off all your little goals. It boosts your energy.

Obstacle number 2 – fear and how to clear it:

Then there are other obstacles like limiting beliefs. Oh yes, now it is getting juicy here. Remember a part of our brain called: critter brain wants you always to be safe. So it keeps reminding you of what you always did, even though it did not do any good to you. The minute you are trying to change for the better, your critter brain comes up, knocking on your door and saying: “Hey, what are you doing? Stay where you are, I don’t know what you are doing, but it doesn’t feel safe because I don’t know it.” Remember, this is just your inner voice trying to convince you to stay where you are. Now, do you want to stay where you are or do you want to achieve great things for yourself? I bet the latter is your truth.

So, next time this inner voice comes up which might be saying to you: “Really, you? You are going to fail anyway. What do you mean, you can reach this goal, are you joking?” This kind of voice needs to shut up! Give that voice a name and tell it to go away. Now envision you achieving your goal and having it already. Stay at that moment and take a small action step towards your goal.

That’s what it is, a ‘limiting’ beliefs. You are the one limiting it. Ask yourself where does this belief come from and what is the real message underneath? Now ask yourself if this is the truth….most likely you will find that it is not. Then turn this negative belief into a positive power statement, have it with you and read it numerous times during the day, especially in the morning before you go to work and in the evening before you go to bed.

Now let’s get into the action steps for day #2:

1. Write down one of your goals that you’d love to accomplish but feel overwhelmed by.

Next, list seven or fewer of the highest priority action steps that you could do that would allow you to accomplish this goal.

2. If any of these smaller action steps still feel overwhelming, chunk each one down even further into smaller actions. Keep chunking your activities until you feel that you have a clear road ahead to the accomplishment of your goal.

3. After you’ve chunked this overwhelming and stressful goal down into easy action – steps, then decide the priority that you would love to do them in.

Affirmation:

I accomplish my big goals one simple step at a time.

Now write your affirmation in your journal or on a separate piece of paper.

Overcome the obstacles and reach the top of your goal.

If you enjoy this challenge and want more juicy information, please join my closed facebook group “Light up your soul” for more valuable free content and future challenges: join here.

If you feel stuck with chronic fatigue because of consistent high stress levels or you feel just drained and unmotivated to go to work every morning, don’t wait and book in your free discovery call with me now. Click here.

Stay tuned for day 3 action steps.

Alex