Welcome to day #14 of the 31-day challenge: from stress to success. Today’s secret to success is:
Love what you do and do what you love
To be successful and feeling fulfilled in our life can be easy when we allow ourselves to trust our inner wisdom, intuition and inspiration. Once we are clear what we value most, we don’t even think about not working towards our goals. We start to run on autopilot and overcome all challenges in the way. We see these problems as learning lessons and stepping stones.
The problem with too many people is that they are not trusting their inner wisdom, don’t allow to listen to their intuition and instead trying to discuss their life path with other people, ask them for the advice of what they should do. This happens when we don’t trust ourselves, especially during times when we feel uncertain and filled with self-doubt, fear or guilt. Taking on other people’s advice is doing only one thing – it messes up in our head. Remember, every single person on this planet has their own set of values; nobody, not even your partner, is identical. We are unique human beings with our own path. Only you know the answer. So if you ask other people for the advice of what you should be doing, they will answer based on their values. Of course, they mean it in a right way because they want the best for you but what if your path is entirely different to other people?
Having said this, mentors will be very helpful as long as they only ask you questions to help you find the answer in yourself. Unfortunately, most people or mentors in corporations don’t do this and just tell you what they would be doing. So, choose your mentors wisely or book a coach who can help you to trust your inner guidance and transforms your old limiting beliefs for good.
Don’t get messed up in your head and learn how to trust yourself. The stress starts when you do things other people tell you to do but it is not in line with your values. Then you basically run against your own energy. This is exhausting. That’s when we start giving up as soon as a minor challenge comes up because we keep saying to ourselves that it is too hard. That’s when we start comparing ourselves to others and punish ourselves when we don’t hit the standard.
If that’s you experiencing it right now, stop right here and ask yourself: Is what I am doing in line with my highest intrinsic values or do I live a life based on other people’s values? As soon as you realise you use the words: should, have to or must….you can be sure, you follow someone else’s values and not your own. You are walking on a different path but not yours.
Now, the good news is, that it is not too late. Being aware of the situation is already the first step towards change. Once you realised that you are living your life based on shoulds, have to or need to, ask yourself what it is you value most? What is something you love doing, which makes you jump out of bed in the morning and nobody needs to remind you to do it? What makes your heart sing? Ask yourself if it is a “hell yes” or a “no”. Yes, there is nothing in between. So if it is not a ‘hell yes’, change it or link it to your values and goals. It might be a stepping stone for you right now so you can achieve your goal in the future.
Doing what you love doing is making you experience fulfilment in life. It is enhancing your self-worth. Not following your path is hindering your self-esteem and leads to stress and exhaustion.
Even when you realise that you are in a career or relationship which does not fulfil you and you feel trapped or in a hopeless situation. Don’t! Remember everything you do is happening for a reason, you might have had to learn specific experiences and lessons to move towards your actual goal. Or you just had to learn a lesson of trusting your intuition rather than other people’s advice.
Whatever you are presently doing, perceive it as a stepping stone to ever-greater things ahead. If for some reason you are not ready to move towards your next goal, link what you are currently doing to your goal and embrace and learn everything you can. In the meantime, you can start and prepare building your dream.
Having a purpose for what you do is essential. It helps you to focus on the things which matter and to get rid of the things which don’t.
If you are still unsure of what it is you love doing, I am going to offer a free workbook which is helping you to find out what your intrinsic values are. In order to receive this, please join my closed facebook group . I am going to make this available only in that group by the end of this challenge.
1. If you feel that you aren’t doing what you love, write down at least 20 benefits of whatever you are currently doing. As you’re writing this list, keep in mind that whatever you’re engaged in is merely a stepping – stone. It’s preparing you for what you would love to do tomorrow. This will help you put your heart more fully into your day.
2. If you do feel that you’re already doing what you love, write down a long list of its benefits. Keep writing until you feel your heart opens up even more to your daily life.
I do what I love, and I love what I do.
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Stay tuned for day 15 action steps.