How to change your perception and create the life you want

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Hi, Alex here, to help you change your perception, to see the order in the chaos and to create the life you want.

But first, why am I talking about changing your perception in the first place?

Good question!

Changing your perception is the secret to creating your own reality. It is not so much about what happens to you but how you perceive it.

So, what is changing your perception?

Almost all of us have gone through some either loss, betrayal, heartbreak, grief, illness, financial distress or any other hardships.

We have two options:

  • One option is to be and stay as a victim; then nothing in your life will change.
  • A second option is to find the order in the chaos and to ask ourselves, what were the lessons we had to learn, act on it and let the past go once and for all.

It is up to you, which way you want to go.

Now, you might ask, well, ok I decided for option 2 but how do I change my perception?

I am not saying it is a lovely task to do, but it will definitely help you to release the past once and for all. There is always something positive in a negative situation.

But how do you deal and release the past without dwelling on it?
a) Make a list of past hurts

What helped me to finally release the past, was to write down everything that bothered me, made me angry, frustrated or even sad. Every single hurt in my past was on the list including the lack of money, love or success. Whatever comes up for you, write it all down. The point is not to roll around in pain again, it just to notice. I know it does not feel nice to capture all the crap from our past. Stay with me, in a few minutes you will feel much better.

b) What are the lessons you learned?

Once you are done, sit back quietly, meditate on it if you like to and ask yourself, what is it I had to learn from all that. Maybe you actually turned your learnings already into actions, but you never noticed it or acknowledged it as such. There is always something you take away for your personal growth. Use a different piece of paper and write down everything that comes to your mind of what you have learned.

I give you a few examples of lessons learnt which might be relevant for you too:

Love yourself
Set your boundaries and
Value yourself.
These were a big one for me. I never valued myself and was giving services away for free. This is giving but not receiving. Energy cannot flow this way, this is not good for the person who gives but also not any good for the individual who received the free service. Setting boundaries was another huge learning for me. I learned to say yes to myself and stop pleasing others.

A lack of money goes back to the same thing; if we don’t value ourselves, we keep spending money on things we don’t need or keep saying yes to underpaid jobs and never ask for a pay rise.

Maybe you will also realise that you had to go through all of the things to find out what your purpose in life is. You might find yourself helping and inspire other people who experience the same thing and need someone like you. There is always a gift presented in the tough things in life if we allow ourselves to see it.

c) Write a thank you letter

Once you have written down a list of the things you learned, write a thank you letter. You might want to do it like this:

Thanks ___________ for letting me experience  ____________. You showed me that I have to _________ (e.g. set my boundaries/ value myself, love myself….) I started to  __________ (e.g. if ‘set my boundaries’ was the learning: to say yes to myself and no to things and people in my life who drain my energy…use examples; if you have not done so, write down the intention to do so. Be specific.)

d) Eliminate the negative list and read out loud your thank you letter

Now you can burn or shredder the negative things you experienced. Make a ritual out of it if you like. Say out loud, that this past situation can now go and leave your energy field.

Now, before you go to bed, breathe in and out slowly, then read out loud the thank you letter. Notice how you feel after this and especially after this night’s sleep. You might have a dream which processes the remaining bits and pieces to be released. Don’t worry about this. This is part of the healing process.

You will feel much lighter after this exercise, you will feel like a huge weight was taken off you.

Changing the perspective and being grateful for the lessons we learned is transforming our lives. We are now open to receive positive high vibrational energy into your field. You will see how things are going to shift. You will be more open to new opportunities.

Remember, some hurt can sit very deep and you might want to read out this thank you letter several times before you can fully see the results in your life.

There is never a loss but a transformation.

What do you do now?

Do you still feel overwhelmed with all this? I can imagine, I have been through this myself, and I wished I had someone who helped me when I needed it. I hear you.

In my health and life coaching practice, I help people like you to transform their lives. If that resonates with you and you would like to have some support to guide you through the process, click here to book a complimentary breakthrough session with me. You will discover what it is stopping you from living the life you want and what to do about it step by step.

Say yes to yourself; each and every one of you deserves the best life on earth.

Comment below if that helped you and what came up for you. How did you feel after doing this exercise?

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Being your creative self – part 2

Following from last week’s post, being your creative self means to show your originality. It also is a way to look within and to bring your shadows into the light.

Have the courage to look within

The chances are that you are also highly emotional as a highly creative individual. A study of 27 art collectors found that they were almost three times more intuitive and emotionally based, compared to the general population.

Most of us may think we are weird to be around and expect social rejection and push people away due to insecurities and sabotage opportunities. We say to ourselves, better not to try, rather than suffer from disappointment.

Now, I have some exciting news for you: if you feel that way, this is a perfect first step to being creative. Have the courage to use your inner life as a canvas for your creations and use your feelings when creating. Even if the feelings might be painful, sit with them compassionately. There is a huge likelihood that there are other people out there who feel exactly the same way and love to see your work. You heal others who feel the way you do.

Art is helping us to look at our shadows so they can be understood and healed. Make your art authentically real and coming from your heart and soul.

Unfortunately, our ego does not want us to face our fearful part of our minds, our shadow side. However, once we are consciously aware of the fears, the ego loses its ability to control us. The ego tries to convince us that it is dangerous to look within and take an honest inventory of our feelings. Our ego tries to tell us that if we think we are a bad person, we are the bad person. In spiritual truth, we are as great as our creator because we are made in the image and likeness of our creator.

It is not easy to look within because there is this deep-seated fear that we don’t like what we may find. There is maybe a fear of finding nothing. This is especially the case if you had to adapt to your life because of an abusive upbringing, which means that you learned to conform, cope and get along. That also means that you forget who you really are and you lose touch with your true self and honest opinions.

However,  once you shine the light within yourself, you find there’s a light shining back at you. You will realise how far you have come and that you learned great lessons and stayed strong through painful experiences and hardships.

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Once you shine the light wihin yourself, you find there is a light within shining back at you.

Looking within means that you do whatever it takes for your inspiration. Let your true self and emotions shine through your art. See the divine spark of light in you. Everyone has this light, you just need to be willing to look within to find it. Have compassion for yourself and express this with your creativity.

Don’t cover up dark, painful feelings. The best way to deal with it is to face it and say to it: “Look, you don’t scare me any longer. In fact, you are not even real. You are just a dark cloud trying to cast a shadow over my bright inner light.”

Art connects who you are on the inside to who others are on the inside. Remember what you have felt then, many other people have felt, and what you feel now, many other people feel. When you speak the truth about your feelings through your creations, others recognise this truth within their own selves. It speaks directly to their hearts. Your creativity creates a heart to heart connection with truth and authenticity.

Have the courage to bring your shadows into the light

Facing your feelings even though we are not always proud of them, means to have courage. Everyone has an ego which is competitive and insecure. It’s not whether we go into your egotistical inner child that matters; it’s what we do with it. Use your ego based energy in your creative projects, which helps others to recognise themselves and receive healing through your art.

Studies show that when we reveal our human flaws, other people perceive us as more likeable. It is about getting to know yourself at the deepest level and being vulnerable. This is how you form a loving, trusting bond with yourself. Trust and have confidence in yourself. Have the courage to be yourself.

If this resonates with you, join my facebook group “Helping creatives shine” to being able to participate in upcoming challenges.

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Have a wonderful creative week.

Law of attraction card reading for the week of 18 September 2017

Welcome to my weekly law of attraction reading. I am using the deck from Esther and Jerry Hicks :

For the week of the 18 September 2017 I pulled the following card:

I cannot create in the experience of another

You cannot create in the experience of another because you cannot think their thoughts…What you can do for them is set the example of joy. Become a Being who thinks only of that which you are wanting, who speaks only of that which you are wanting, and who does only that which you are wanting – and therefore brings forth only joyful emotion.

What a great reminder to only listen to your own intuition, to your own soul. You have inner wisdom. Others have different values and wishes so they won’t be able to answer your question. Trust yourself. You have everything you need inside you.

Have a wonderful week ahead.

Be Your Creative Self

Being your creative self is not as easy. What does it actually mean? How do I do that?

Some people feel like there is something wrong with them, maybe you felt this way? I certainly have. Sometimes we feel stuck and insecure, comparing ourselves with others who have everything. You might have been teased for being strange in your childhood. Perhaps you felt you do not fit in?

My journey of realisation

I realised over the years that I don’t fit in a regular 9- 5 pm corporate job and was always wondering what was wrong with me. How come others love it and are progressing better and faster than I ever did. I didn’t even want a promotion. How weird is that?

It took me a few years to discover that I am different and nothing was wrong with me. In my past, I always chose a job where I got bored easily even though I was busy and overloaded with work. Years later I had to learn the hard way. I suffered from adrenal exhaustion, was always tired and had simply no energy to do anything I loved doing. If you want to read more about my story, check it out here.

Luckily, I turned my life around and started to express my creative side in me. I started taking photos and still love doing it. However, at the beginning of my journey, I took photos but thought I was not good enough. What was the point to publish my photos, was one of my big questions to myself. All those limiting beliefs held me back from expressing myself because I felt I was not perfect yet and need to improve my skills first. I was always worried what others people think of my photography. It was simply a huge lack of confidence.

Gladly I ended up with very supportive people around me, who encouraged me to keep going and that I was very talented. Getting feedback from your friends and family is not enough though. Of course, they are nice to you, but if we don’t risk to publish our art, we will never know if people like it or not. Bear in mind, there will always be someone who is negative, but most of the people will give you generous and constructive feedback. The point is to do it anyway, no matter what others think. If you express your true creative self, the right people will resonate with your art.

So, what does being your Creative Self mean?

It means to have the courage to:

  • show your originality
  • look within and
  • bring your shadows into the light

Having the courage to show your originality

Be the authentic version of yourself. Originality means nonconformity. Being original is essential for creativity. Put your creative ideas into motion and create the book, painting, jewellery, dance choreography or whatever you want to create. Stop dreaming about your idea but take actions. Small baby steps are the way to go; you set the intention to follow your dream. Now you just need to keep going.

A study found that neuroticism (chronic excessive worries and anxieties) is linked to the emotional sensitivity required for a successful creative career. Your sensitivity is your gift that leads to inspiration and the desire to inspire others through creativity.

Perhaps, people teased you about being too sensitive in your past. Now you know why it is so important to be that way. People who judge you on that are just trying to convince you to conform or were not as sensitive or creative as you, or these were individuals who were jealous because they suppressed their creativity and sensitivity.

Remember, other people’s opinion is just that, an opinion. They give you their opinion based on their past experiences, values and their beliefs. Your real identity has nothing to do with their words. You will know, that you have taken the right path of nonconformity.

Being creative is not a hobby for us, it is a way of life. It means expressing your vision in all that you do. Live your life as a creative.

Creativity is defined as making something that is new; the opposite is conformity, so creativity has the courage to not conform but to embrace your imagination. Imagination is the pipeline to possibilities. Be open to receive new opportunities, notice your ideas without worrying about if it is feasible. Don’t just think outside the box but think like there is no box.

Next week’s forecast of how to be your creative self

I am going to reveal more about the courage to look within and to bring your shadow into the light next time. Stay tuned.

If this resonates with you, join my facebook group “Helping creatives shine” to being able to participate in upcoming challenges.

Do you want to find out what is stopping you from creating your creative self, book a complimentary Breakthrough session with me here.

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Once you shine the light wihin yourself, you find there is a light within shining back at you – Doreen Virtue.

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