Lots of us have been hurt in some way. It might have been your parents, your colleagues or boss might have sabotaged you or your partner betrayed you. The wounds can stay with you forever, you may feel bitter and full of anger, you might start to believe that everybody will do this to you. You start losing trust in others, which is eventually damaging you. A friend of mine was saying once: “Don’t let anyone rent space in your head for free.” I know it is easier said than done, but try to imagine all the bad things happened to you, put all of it into a big balloon. Can you see the problems floating around in there? Now get ready, burn it and let it go into the sky. See how it destroys itself and all your negative issues are gone? I know, it is not as simple as that, but you get the point.e
Forgiveness is the hardest thing to do, but once you do, you will open up for the better. Let go of the grudges and bitterness, don’t hold on to anger and wishing the worst to the person who has hurt you. This will only bring more negativity. Instead, forgive, even though it is hard. You will realise how much your heart will start to open. New and great things will be happening to you. Embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy.
How do you forgive and what does it mean?
It is your decision to let go of resentment and anger. Whatever it was that hurt you might always remain part of your life, but forgiveness can help you to focus on new and more positive things. You might even feel empathy, and you understand the situation better, or you feel compassion for the one who hurt you.
Forgiveness does not mean you deny the other person’s responsibility, and it does not justify what happened. Forgive that person without excusing the act. It will benefit in moving your life forward.
What other advantages can you get from forgiving others? It will bring you:
Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
Less anxiety, stress and hostility
Lower blood pressure
Fewer symptoms of depression
Stronger immune system
Improved heart health and
When forgiving that person, stop seeing yourself as a victim and release the control of offending the person and situation.
“Watch out for each other. Love everyone and forgive everyone, including yourself. Forgive your anger. Forgive your guilt. Your shame. Your sadness. Embrace and open up your love, your joy, your truth, and most especially your heart.” – Jim Henson
What a beautiful quote from Bob Marley. What does this mean? I guess everybody has their interpretation. I can only tell you what I believe.
One Love: I think you can be in love more than once, but there will only be one person you truly love and feel connected to. This person is meant to stay in your life forever. If you have found that special someone, hold onto him or her.
One Heart: You only have one heart. Your heart is your personality, what you love doing and what makes you. It is simply you. Treat yourself well. You can give your heart away to the ones you love but always remember to love yourself and treat yourself well and with respect. You only have one life.
One Destiny: Events are happening in your life which you don’t have control over. It is the hidden power believed to control what will happen; it is fate. However, you also have a choice to create your destiny to a certain extent. Believe in the good things in life and believe in everything will work out in the end. Your actions will pick your fate. The destiny is yours and is for nobody else. Only you will meet certain people in your life, walked that particular path and chose the roads ahead of you. You made mistakes, you were successful, and the relationships you had or still have been only yours. Nobody else will have the same destiny like you.
Life is not worth living without love. Love doesn’t just mean between partners; it also means loving family, friends and animals.
Love starts with accepting and loving yourself first. Only when you love yourself, you will be able to give love to others. If you hate yourself, why would somebody else like you? So start from there. Be confident, look into the mirror each morning when you get up and every night before you go to bed and say out loud how awesome and beautiful you are. Sounds silly but helps with your confidence. Nobody is perfect, not even the fashion models. Their photographer knows how to fix things in Photoshop – believe me:) Beauty comes from your inside and your smile.
Love and live your life to its fullest potential. Loving yourself helps you attracting the right people into your life. Your life starts to improve. Try it, you have nothing to lose.
“Where there is love there is life.” – Mahatma Gandhi
Have you ever experienced true love? Isn’t true love everybody wants in life? The problem is that people want it but not everybody is prepared for it and run away because they are scared. The feeling of true love can be overwhelming and you don’t know how to deal with it.
The psychologist Robert Sternberg came up with the following three parts of when you know you experience true love:
Have you ever had the feeling of an instant connection with someone because you are physically and sexually attracted to each other. It is the ‘wow’ factor when you are in a different world for moments. It is an overwhelming feeling, electricity and a chemistry you cannot describe. You feel almost obsessed with the other person.
Intimacy creates closeness and connectedness. You bond with each other. It grows with spending much time with each other. It goes deeper by sharing everything about your life with each other. It is built on trust, you feel safe. However, intimacy takes patience to develop, lots of us are not prepared for it. You are required to talk about everything even things you might not want to disclose to everybody. Continue reading “How do you know it is true love?”
I believe that if you love somebody truly, the promises you make to that special someone will never be broken. It is important to note that you really feel that person is so important to your life and is worth it. He or she will be able to make and keep the same promise to you. It has to be mutual.
I believe that true love does exist and this statement is the definition of it:
“Some people don’t understand the promises they’re making when they make them,” I said. “Right, of course. But you keep the promise anyway. That’s what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway.” ― John Green, The Fault in Our Stars
You probably noticed by now, I am a Bob Marley fan. I love reading his quotes about love. Chose to love her or him. It is in your hands. You are the director of your own life. What do you have to lose? Probably only time.
“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect—you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break—her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.” ― Bob Marley
I came across this beautiful quote from Bob Marley which I couldn’t resist but to share with you. Enjoy reading it. May all of you find that special someone in your life. Trust your gut when you meet that special person, your heart will tell you. Don’t be scared if you feel that way and run away because you don’t believe it can be true. Go for it, open your heart and feel the love of your life. Hold on to it. Life is too short to throw those kind of opportunities away. Live your life and love like you will never get hurt.
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” ― Bob Marley
Live your life with pure joy every day. Do whatever you feel like without being worried that somebody might be watching and judging you.
Dance like nobody is watching. People are most likely busy with themselves. I have seen people on the dance floor who had so much fun and go crazy. They might not have been the best dancers but that doesn’t matter. They were just enjoying themselves which is so much more attractive to me than somebody who is just showing off thousands of moves but doesn’t have fun or doesn’t feel the music. Whatever feels right to you, go for it. People who judge are just being negative and dissatisfied with their own life.