From stress to success day #8: do selective reading

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Welcome to day #8 of the 31-day challenge: from stress to success. Today’s secret to success is:

Do selective reading

When protecting our own stress level, it is important what we expose ourselves to. You may have noticed if you are around a person who is very negative and all that person does is complaining. After talking to that person, you feel depressed and down. The negative energy of someone else transferred to you. The same applies to anything you read and watch on TV. If we read all the negative stories in the newspaper, social media or watch it on TV, that negative energy sticks to you like glue. Why do we keep doing this and soak up other people’s negative vibes and anxieties? If we read about how stressful people’s lives are, you can attune to and become stuck in that same level of stress.

My advice to you is to be selective in what you read. Choose those that will focus you on the success the most, the stories which will inspire you and keep your energy level high. Collect inspirational, motivational stories from books, newspapers and magazines.

Remember when you read an inspiring book or watched a video about someone sharing their motivational success stories? How did you feel after that? You felt tremendous and pumped which you make get started with your own action steps towards your goals.

I got rid of my TV two years ago and don’t miss watching TV at all. I stopped reading any dramas or sad stories but replaced those books with inspirational books about self-help, self – development and spirituality.

While others watching TV, I am indulging myself in inspiring stories, learn more about humanity or create content for my business. This keeps my heart sing:)

Action Steps:

1. Keep a book of inspirational short stories or poems next to your bed. Read at least one page every night before you sleep.

2. Have a calendar of inspirational quotes in your home or have quotes on your fridge so you can see it every day.

3. Use an inspirational quote photo as a desktop background on your computer, laptop or phone.

4. If you read a newspaper, see how many upbeat or success stories you can collect and compile. These can be great conversation pieces to share with your friends and co-workers during the day. Skip the negative articles.


I focus on the successful, motivating stories of others. I am inspired to greatness!


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my selective reading: The courage to be creative from Doreen Virtue

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Law of attraction reading for the week of 13 November 2017

Welcome to my weekly law of attraction reading. I am using the deck from Esther and Jerry Hicks :

For the week of the 13 November 2017 I pulled the following card:

“I can feel positive while thinking positive.”

“The longer you stay focused upon what you do not want, the greater and more powerful that thought will become. But if you are sensitive to your emotions and you withdraw your attention from the unwanted very quickly, you will begin to feel better – and you will stop the attraction of the unwanted thing.”

Weekly law of attraction card reading

Welcome to my weekly law of attraction reading. I am using the deck from Esther and Jerry Hicks :

For the week of the 4 September 2017 I pulled the following card:

My appreciation of it attracts its essence to me

An extremely effective use of your creative workshop is to ponder the aspects you appreciate regarding your most important subjects.

Utilising the workshop in this way accomplishes everything required for Deliberate Creation. In your emotion of appreciation, you are allowing that which you desire to manifest into your life experiences.

Remember, whether you are thinking of what you do want, or whether you are thinking of the lack of what you want (the direction of your thought is your choice), the Law of Creation goes to work upon whatever you are thinking about.


Why most of us don’t achieve their goals

Have you ever wondered why some people are just successful and seem to achieve all of their goals and others never make it and are depressed and sad?

The reason is your mindset. The minute you say that it is all too hard, you have not deserved it or you won’t be able to make it is sabotaging negative self talk. Stop right here.

Do what successful people do, think positive. They also experience things they are not happy with or proud of but the difference is they don’t hang on to it. They let go and move on and remember only the positive in each situation. When you think about it there is always an opportunity for you to learn.

You too can train your brain to be more positive. Continue reading “Why most of us don’t achieve their goals”

How to overcome fears and get what you want


Fear is like walking in the dark searching for the light but as soon as you see the light you walk away because you are scared. It is out of your comfort zone. Friends cannot do much; they mean it in a good way when they tell you there is nothing you need to be scared of. We all know, that doesn’t help. We are not listening to that kind of advice.

Fear is real and in order to deal with it you firstly need to acknowledge it. Fear is psychological. Worry, tension, embarrassment, panic are results from mismanaging negative imaginations. But knowing that you deal with fears, doesn’t mean you can heal it immediately. You need to go inside your soul and try to understand where it comes from. People say it is only in your mind but in fact it is real. Fear is your success enemy no.1. Fear is stopping us from recognising and taking on opportunities. You might actually feel you found what you were looking for but fear is stopping you to take it, you go back to your old habits and wonder why you are still unhappy. Unfortunately fear can make people sick, depressed and shortens your life.

Continue reading “How to overcome fears and get what you want”

The power of positive thinking

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Nowadays everybody talks about positive thinking but what are the benefits of it and what does it really mean. How do you think positively? Can you just press the button and there you go? Well, it is not that simple.

A positive mindset focusses on the bright side in life. People who are positive, seem to have more energy and attract a lot of other positive people around them; they are optimistic. On the other hand there are negative thinking or pessimistic people. They are mostly perceived as being toxic and people stay away from them. Have you ever been in a situation where you had a great and happy day until you catch up with your ‘negative’ friend. After that you go home feeling depressed?

Having a positive mindset is very powerful and has a great impact on our health:

It reduces stress. We all know that stress makes us sick, so being positive improves our health.  We are dealing with stress situation in  a more effective way. We are staying focussed and positive about an outcome which helps us in dealing with it in a calm manner.

When being positive our voice becomes more powerful and our body language shows the way we feel.

Positive people get more physical activity, such as exercising or dancing, they follow a healthier diet, don’t smoke or drink alcohol in excess. Some health benefits could be connected to them:

  • people with a positive mind live longer
  • they are unlikely to suffer from depression
  • they show lower levels of distress
  • having greater resistance to the common cold
  • better psychological and physical well-being
  • reduced risk of getting cardiovascular disease
  • coping better during hardships and stressful times

Positive minds are attracting positive things in life. It seems that everything is just flowing without greater effort.

What actually does it mean to be positive, what exactly do we have to do:

  • It starts with our self-talk. How many times do we realise that we stop believing in ourselves and started the doubt talk…”oh I am sure I won’t be able to achieve that…they don’t want me…’I am not good enough….etc”. I am sure we all do sometimes. That’s were we need to step in. Believe in yourself. You can do and achieve everything you put your mindset to. In order to start the positive self talk, use positive words such as I can do it; I will do it, there is an opportunity and get rid of ‘no’, ‘not’, ‘cannot’ etc.
  • Believing in everything happens for a reason: Sometimes things happen in our life which makes us feel unsettled and upset. Once you start believing in ‘everything happens for a reason’ you will see it from a positive point of view. You might not find out immediately what the reason was but in the end you will. Don’t get too upset and instead look at the bride side. Maybe it was not meant to be. For example in case you lost your job due to redundancies in your firm it could have been a good thing for you. Maybe you didn’t like that job anyways and you would have stayed there forever being unhappy because you are afraid of changes. Sometimes we need that push from the outside in order to follow our real purpose in life and finding happiness.
  • Having a sense of humour helps. Instead of getting mad at certain situations, it is good to laugh about it. That way we create positivity and it might not be as bad anymore. Sure we all have been in situations where you wait at the airport and the plane is getting delayed for hours. It might be annoying at that stage but once you have a laugh about it you feel better. When I was in South America I experienced it quite frequently. However, we started joking about it, laughed and felt good. Have a cup of coffee and chill out.
  • Exercising increases the level of endorphins in your body which leaves you with a happy feeling.
  • Listen to your favourite music and sing (if you are like me and you cannot sing then only sing where nobody can hear you:))
  • Surround yourself with positive people. Stay away from negative, toxic friends.

Positive minds attract good things. Nevertheless you still might have to encounter unpleasant situations in your life but the way how you deal with it makes the difference. With a positive approach you see the good in everything, you learn your  lessons in life, improve and move on.

Remember after rain is always sunshine and where there is a dark side there is always a bright side. You just need to open your eyes.

Always look on the bright side.

orchid in the rain
Even in the dark you can see the light

It is that simple to be happy?

Sometimes we are facing not so pleasant challenges in life which makes it hard for us to be happy. If you don’t like the life you are living at the moment, then change it. However, there can be circumstances in which we cannot change a particular situation in our life but there is one thing we can do. We can change our attitude. Once your mindset is positive; life becomes so much easier. You start seeing obstacles as chances rather than negative road blocks in your life. So choose to be happy and you will be.

If you want to be happy then be.

If you want to be happy then be
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