Why are most people afraid of change? Is it because you feel comfortable in the situation you are in or you are unsure how something different will be like? You probably think it will be hard work or you don’t get the things you have at the moment or whatever excuses you come up with. Sorry but I call it excuses to stay where you are and not wanting to change. So, to summarise, you rather stay unhappy with yourself and keep doing the things you currently do just to avoid change? I will be a bit harsh now: then stop being unhappy. It is your life made up of your choices. If you don’t like it you need to change it or stop complaining about it. This is being negative and being afraid to embrace new chances in life.
Some of us might be thrown into a change, thinking of redundancies in companies. You might have ever hated it there anyways but you felt comfortable and were scared of change.
I came across this beautiful quote from Bob Marley which I couldn’t resist but to share with you. Enjoy reading it. May all of you find that special someone in your life. Trust your gut when you meet that special person, your heart will tell you. Don’t be scared if you feel that way and run away because you don’t believe it can be true. Go for it, open your heart and feel the love of your life. Hold on to it. Life is too short to throw those kind of opportunities away. Live your life and love like you will never get hurt.
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” ― Bob Marley
Autumn is about earthy and warm colours. What I miss in Australia are the beautiful trees turning its colour into golden and red. Maybe this is the reason why I so much like going to New Zealand. It does remind me on home and is such a small, peaceful and beautiful country.
I took this autumn photo in Queenstown. The golden coloured trees in contrast with the blue lake and surrounding mountains is a photographer’s dream.
The best years of your life are the ones in which you take ownership and decide to take control of your life. It is when you stop blaming others and circumstances and realise that you control your destiny. Take action and make decisions for your life which will lead you to happiness.
It is an easy way out to blame others when something doesn’t work out the way you want it to be. People keep complaining about their life and wonder why nothing ever changes. Well, nothing will change if you don’t take control of your life and start making decisions for the better. Stop complaining and take actions. You are the only one who can control your life.
If you don’t like your situation, change it and if you really cannot change the situation that quickly, change your attitude. Make a decision which will makes you feel good. Choose to be happy.
The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology or the president. You realise that you control your own destiny. – Albert Ellis –
People spend too much time thinking about the past or worrying about the future. We keep forgetting that our physical selves are forever locked in the present. Remember to live in the now.
When our mindset is too busy with analysing what happened in the past or wonder what will happen in the future we might miss out on great opportunities right in front of us. What happened, happened for a reason, we need to learn from it and move on. Worrying doesn’t get us anywhere, we just keep attracting negative things in life. If you keep realising that you think about the past or future – stop and get your mindset back into the present.
So live in the now, enjoy each moment and celebrate you being alive.
You love being in nature, hiking in the mountains and always wanted to go to Southamerica? I have a solution for you, Patagonia has it all – beautiful colours, breathtaking landscapes, lots of trekking possibilities, ice glaciers and wildlife you haven’t seen before.
When you are flying to El Calafate and are about to land, you will notice the turbulences. Don’t worry – it is very windy in Patagonia, that is normal. I will tell you some wind stories from Torres del Paine later but first I want to introduce you to Fitz Roy National Park.
The landscape you pass when you are on your way from El Calafate to El Chalten cannot be described in words. The colours of the glacier lakes are amazing, believe me there is no photoshop processing involved – it is real. I have never seen such a beautiful landscape before.
Further on the way to El Chalten we could see the clouds formation which is just incredible.
This road leads to El Chalten. Behind the clouds you can see the Fitz Roy mountains.
The weather in Patagonia can change quickly and you might have 4 seasons in one day. I was there in December which is the beginning of summer but don’t expect it to be that hot. Arrived in the sunshine the first rain cloud came in.
The next morning we started the 22km hike within the Glacier National Park’s northern end, where granite pinnacles spiral upward into the sky from the third largest ice field on earth.
Luckily it was not too windy, just cold in the morning which is fine once you are dressed up with a beanie, scarf, warm jumper and windproof jacket. The walk is pretty easy and good manageable. That photo has been taken from one of the viewpoints we have passed. Seeing the huge glacier is incredible.
You can go all the way up to the glacier and walk around it.
The hike to the glacier lake is moderate with clearly marked and well-maintained trails, though there are some challenges in and between.
The last one hour up to the top was one of the challenging parts, a very steep hike. We were lucky and the sun was shining which means it was pretty hot. So now you need to pack your warm layers back into your bag and walk around in a t-shirt. Yes, that is Patagonia for you.
Once arrived at the top of the glacier lake, Laguna de Los Tres, I couldn’t believe what I was seeing, what a stunning view. The lake was so clear, still and so peaceful. The glacier lake was like a mirror. The sky showed itself from its best side. What a nice place to chill out and enjoy some lunch.
When you keep walking you reach another beautiful lagoon with an awe-inspiring view:
On the way back to El Chalten (another 4 hours) you see more of the beautiful landscape.
The glacier creeks have the best water you can drink; it is absolutely safe and tasty. Fill your bottles and enjoy.
…and here my favourite photo which summarises the beautiful Fitz Roy National park. The ‘Parque Nacional Los Glaciares’ has some of the most spectacular natural sights you will see in your lifetime.
That was just the beginning of the Patagonia journey. From here it goes to Perito Moreno Glacier and Torres del Paine NP before we reach ‘fireland’ and the most southern city of the world ‘Ushuaia’.
Do you notice too that lots of people are judging others based on their values and their assumptions they make? It can be very annoying but it is actually really sad for them. Once you made up your mind and got your assumptions in your head you will make decision which you probably won’t do if your mind would be open.
Sometime I just want to shake those narrow minded people. Quickly they jump into conclusion on something and don’t even ask the person involved what the problem might be. Are you one of them? I hope this article changes you; are you surrounded by somebody like this, I hope you can change their mindset for the better of everyone involved.
If you haven’t read the book ‘ The 7 habits of highly effective people’ yet, I really recommend to do so. It made me more aware of all this kind of situations you are facing almost on a daily basis and makes a better person out of you. One example mentioned in that book, which still stucks in my head, is: …a man sitting in a cafe in NYC with his kids. The kids are running around like crazy, very loud and irritating to other guest in that cafe. The dad is not doing anything, just sitting there being in a different world. People started complaining, judging this dad not being able to educate his kids properly etc. There was only one women who walked up to him and asked him if everything was ok with him. He then answered that he has just lost his wife and mother of his two kids.’ I will always remember this heartbreaking story which reminds myself to stop judging others and just to ask a simple question if something is irritating you. You never know what is going on in the other person’s life. I wished more people would be that empathetic and stop making assumptions. Life would be amazing.
Lesson learned is to stop judging others, ask why they do certain things in a way which irritates you. Stop judging other people based on your values as they might and probably will have different core values. So you won’t understand if you base it on your own life. Remember everybody is unique and it is great the way it is. The world would be boring if it would consist of only you.
Open your mind, be free of judgement, connect with others and great things will happen to you.
“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.”
― Isaac Asimov
Isn’t it sad that society nowadays is less trusting? A suspicious world is not a happy one. So, let’s work on that.
Love and trust is important, no matter what kind of relationship. It can be work related, trust with your partner or friends. Trusting relationships are successful and achieve more than non-trusted ones. Once you gained your trust, don’t break it. Some people I have seen, use information given in trust for their advantage. That’s it, the relationship is broken and cannot be fixed whatsoever. You will lose that person or if you chose to still be with that person you will never end up being happy.
Remember – breaking trust is negative and makes you unhappy. Be trustworthy and loveable to be a happier person.
One day it was raining a lot and a cute colourful rainbow lorikeet couple was sitting on my balcony looking for some shelter. They are cheeky, playful and curious. Since Lorikeets don’t have a well-defined breeding season, they pair for life; this way they are ready to breed anytime conditions are favourable. Lories are loving and trusting each other, happy birds. Let’s follow their example.
When I was in New Zealand a while ago I booked a day tour to the Northern beaches and rainforest of Auckland. On our way back we had some time remaining and our tour guide wanted to show us his favourite black sand beach called “Karekare” next to beach Piha. It was the perfect time of the day. The sun was setting and the colours in the sky were amazing and beautiful. I was walking around and took photos from different angles until I saw this waterhole which reflected the sunset and the rock on the right hand side. I was so happy and excited to be able to capture that moment.
This photo is still one of my favourites and I am happy to share this with you in the half- half photo challenge.
In the modern westernised world you can get pretty much everything done you need; you can buy already prepared meals, you can hire people to help you cleaning your home and fix your car, you can even hire a dog walker if you need to. Have you ever wondered how it is like if you had to do everything yourself?
I was raised in the East part of Germany (German Democratic Republic); you had to work out lots of the things you need yourself. We were not able to buy fresh fruits and vegetable unless you had your connections and you couldn’t just go and buy material for fixing up your home. We had to find your own way and improvise. My mum was growing our own fresh vegetables and fruits in the garden and cooked a beautiful tasty meal with it. My dad fixed the car and motobike or anything which needed to be repaired in the house. There was no way we had money to spend on others cleaning our house. Looking back I believe it helped me a lot to live my own life when I moved countries and had to stay on my own feet. I was never used to learn from my mum’s cooking, I wasn’t interested in it. Living on my own made me learn how to cook and now it is a hobby of mine.
Moving countries and living far away from your family makes you definitely stronger. You suddenly have to rely on yourself. Whoever has been through this knows what I am talking about. You will be amazed how suddenly you can cope on your own. Maybe you are about to make a decision to leave your family to live on your own in another country or you just would like to go for a holiday on your own but you are unsure how it will turn out? Go for it. You will develop skills you didn’t think you would be able to. Being in that situation you will be forced to fend for yourself and to discover what really interest you as there is nobody who will influence you. Take control of areas you don’t feel comfortable with. Maybe you never knew how to cook but being on your own and not wanting to spend so much money you suddenly learn that it actually is not hard at all.
Gain confidence in yourself and your abilities. Take comfort in knowing that you can rely on yourself. It is an amazing feeling looking back and how far you have come and developed skills you haven’t even known before.